Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Let's Talk Consent

Recently as I'm sure you've heard, In Ohio a 16-Year-Old girl was gang raped by members of a high school football team. I don't know all the details myself, but I do know that the media has chosen to...sympathize with the footballers who raped her and put it on youtube? Because we should allow monsters to get away with heinous crimes, so they can have a good life after they've ruined another?

Details about the incident in question found here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/17/steubenville-rape-trial-verdict_n_2895541.html

When it comes to this sort of thing, I've kind of old fashioned. An eye for an eye. They ruined a life, in return, their own rights to a good life are forfeit. I hate when a tragedy comes up, something like this or poor Tyler Clementi ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suicide_of_Tyler_Clementi for details) and the defense is "lets not ruin another life over this". The heck with that. If you are responsible for causing the destruction or pain and suffering someone because you were being a dick, or worse, you deserve everything the law can throw at you.

Firstly my heart goes out to this poor girl. Not only has one of the most heinous acts a human can do to another been done to her, her rapists are being made to look like the victims of this situation. I heard somewhere they attempted (and failed, thank what little good there is left in the world) to use the defense that it was consensual because she didn't say no.

I also wish I could say this was the first time I'd heard this defense. It's not. It is true, no means no. But that does not mean lack of no means yes. So let's talk about consent


  • If someone gets punched, we don't assume the victim allowed it.
  • If someone steals, we don't assume the victim consented because they didn't say no.
  • If someone commits murder, we don't assume the victim was willing because they were unconscious.
Do you see the point? Now I shall talk about the definition of consent, according to several online dictionaries.

Dictionary.com Says:

Consent:
  1. As a Verb: "To permit, approve, or agree; comply or yield (often followedby to  or an infinitive): He consented to the proposal. We asked her permission, and she consented."
  2. As a Noun: "Permission, approval, or agreement; compliance; acquiescence:He gave his consent to the marriage."
See the pattern? Neither of these are passive. I've heard the term "dubious consent". Here's the thing. That's not consent. Unless the person in question says "yes", there is no consent. So if the person in question is unable to consent, that does not count as consent.

Next up: Merriam Webster Online.

1. As a Verb: : "to give assent or approval : agree <consent to being tested>"

Do you see the pattern yet? Consent is not a passive act. You can rape someone without them saying no. If they are unable to speak, consider it rape. If they are unable to say no, consider it rape. If they are unable to say yes, consider it rape. If they do not actively express that it is okay, consider it rape!

Capiche?

Furthermore. The whole "the victim might be lying". The victim didn't put the photos and video on the net. That was her rapists being dicks, as previously mentioned.

The digital age. Ruining lives worse then ever because people can be dumb dicks when they commit illegal acts. Making defense attorneys cringe every day.

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

The 3 Degrees of Donna Noble: Dating Tips for the Doctor Who Fan

What are the Degrees of Donna Noble, you ask? They are as follows:

  • Love: When you grow up, you want to be Donna Noble
  • Indifferent: She's a companion, cool, different, or just okay.
  • Hate: She was such a bitch!
 I recently found myself in an interesting perspective. I was talking with a guy I had previously crushed on (for unrelated reasons the crush has passed). Now, I hadn't completely removed him from "datable" as a possibility, but that wasn't mentioned.

It turned out he'd gotten Netflix and had been watching much of Doctor Who. So I immediately asked (well, almost immediately), "Didn't you love Donna?"

The answer was no. He found her bossy, and a bit of a bitch. His words, not mine.

I love her (yes, would like to grow up and be her) because she doesn't put up with nonsense and isn't afraid to speak her mind-not even to a Time Lord!

It was not the first time I removed someone from my list of "datable" for what could be considered a superfluous reason. But I realized why it irked me today.

They think she's bossy and a bitch for all the reason I love her. Donna Noble is loved by some and hated by others for the exact same reasons.

I love Donna because she is assertive, speaks her mind, demands more then the minimum effort, and doesn't let guide lines someone else wrote rule her life.
He hated Donna because she let her voice be heard, didn't settle, and defied the rules where and whenever she could.

He hated all the things about Donna I want to be brave enough to emulate someday.
Thus, the two of us were not compatible. Because some day if we did get together, when I didn't settle for him doing the bare minimum of anything in the relationship, he'd call me a bitch.

So, to my fellow Whovians who are trying to date and or are dating. Talk to the person you're thinking of emotionally investing in. Of course, they know what Doctor Who is, right? No? Okay, you've already got problems, but that one is easily fixed. (If they don't like Who at all, trouble in the future).

When you get through the seasons of Doctor Who if you have to, and you've exposed this person to Donna Noble. Find out what they think of her.

Do they like her? Love her? Hate her? How about you?
Do you like her? Love her? Hate her?

If one party has a strong opinion, and the other is indifferent, shouldn't be an issue.
If both parties agree one way or other, great!
If both parties have strong opinions in opposite directions? Rock waters lie ahead.

Monday, January 28, 2013

Story Idea: Dana Wallace and the Faye

Dana Wallace is sixteen, and a teenage girl with fantasies of, well, fantasy. Enter Puck, the fairy jester of Oberon's court. Hijinx ensue, with a flavor of romance. A work in progress, naming each of the chapters after elements of nature.

Friday, November 16, 2012

The Countown

Just a call home to see how he is
Talk of light topics like soda fizz

Our conversations are of happy tone
After initial bitch, growl and moan

Superheroes and an upcoming movie
If I'd wait to see it, that'd be groovy.

Just half a year more
No and if, or
Then comes the screaming
And all this is dreaming

He expects resolution like magic
Which makes the truth tragic
That I've known all along
That he's always been wrong

I know what the world is
It's rules are not his
But I'll keep up the lie
And pray he will buy
That I didn't know
When have our row

After too many years
And too many fears
We're finally talking
And not just walking
He's the dad from when I was five
Before my grades took a dive

He's the man who adored me
Before I took home all D
And he demanded to know what I did
Like I wasn't just a confused kid
I never got over it
When I found out the bit
That I had my limit
He would just skim it

Even when my things got better
It wasn't about that first letter
It was about a forgotten chore
Or how I didn't lock the door
I got straight A's in high school
But if I broke a rule
He'd made sure I heard him
On every passing whim

Two seconds of glory
For every task I excelled in
And then comes the query
"Did you take out the bin?"

There to defend me
From dangers inside and out
But if flaw did he see
Would he begin to pout

He claims not to want perfect
But if you give any less
He'll make it seem not worth it
If impressing him is the quest

With timeime spent apart
There's room in my heart
To be his child again
If I could just not think
Of six months time when
All this progress goes down the sink

I can't live for him
I can't live on his whim
It takes too much effort
For no chance of reward
Knowing he'll be curt
When heart and soul poured

He says one thing like it changes another
Like one limit negates the other
Oh he'll hand out the blame
When no one plays the game
He is shocked and annoyed
Like he was somehow ployed

If I release the wrong sigh
I hate that I have to lie
But he hates the truth
Ever uncouth

But until that frost
I have found what I'd lost
I was sure I could only hate and resent
Despise that he was ever present
Finally he is my father, not dad
But now it only makes me sad
Because I know it will not last
Before it's a thing of the past

There is nothing I can do
And I am ripped in two
As I count down the days
Until I fear our parting of ways

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Two Sides of the Same Coin

            Erika knew she was in trouble when the Duke was overthrown. In the back of her mind she’d always known he was her father, but that wasn’t the point. The point was her mother, Tessa was his favorite prostitute, and as such, they were protected as long as they stayed in the duchy. That is, as long as he was in charge of the duchy.

            Now he’d been killed and a warlord was storming through the land, murdering, pillaging, and burning everything in sight. There was little doubt where he was heading. Her mother figured it out and sent Erika to the Temple, the protect Erika and as a final safeguard to the Temple.

Erika had gone there often with her mother to learn the Arts of Juno, magic. While Tessa was a master, Erika was still learning. She doubted her limited ability could protect her long if the Warlord’s arrived, so she pleaded to the lost gods of the Temple and hugged her knees tight. She was scared out of her mind, frightened of the warlord’s men, and what they might do.

“Please, please, protect me.” She whispered as she looked up at the walls of the Temple, images long since lost.

            Clink! The sound made Erika’s heart stop as she turned. The source had caught the light as it fell. After waiting a moment and no one came bursting in, she reached for the small object, noting an indent in the wall from where it must have fallen. It was round, Erika realized as she began to rub off the dirt. Soon she found herself holding a medallion, one side made of black pearl and the other of white. Engraved on it was a two faced god she couldn’t identify, but stared at for a long while. Where had it come from? Looters had taken everything of value from the Temple long ago. How had they missed something as precious as this?

            A call from the other side of the Temple pulled Erika from her thoughts.

“Erika? Erika, darling, are you in here?” The source was her Aunt Ella, the sister of her mother. Erika slowly peeked out from behind the statue of Juno where she hid, for her mother had told her never to trust anyone in such circumstances. As it turned out, Tessa’s instincts were on the dot. Ella was there, but she’d led the Warlord’s men straight to the temple!

Fury welled up inside Erika as she gripped the medallion, glaring at the traitor. How could she? Their family had been protecting the Temple since before many names were forgotten. Their sacred duty was to keep it safe from outsiders who might defile the Holy Grounds.

“You said she’d be in here.”

            That was the first Erika saw of the Warlord Exal as he approached Ella. She had to stop from gasping, for he was dragging in Tessa. She was glaring at her sister, and even spat at her. Exal wore light armor, clearly boosted by a magic amulet that resided on the chest plate, the only thing that could have protected him from Tessa’s magic.

“She’s here, I’m sure!” Ella cried out.

“You will suffer in Tartarus for this betrayal!” Tessa hissed.

“Don’t you see Tess? If we just give them Erika…”

“You want to give them my daughter, your niece, for our lives!”

“For the good of the many, sister!”

“You are no sister of mine!”

“Enough of your bickering!”

            Exal interrupted them by grabbing Ella by her hair and dragging her further into the Temple, its hall lit by torches that lined the walls every few feet.

“Girl!” He barked as Erika’s aunt screamed, “Before his passing, your father promised you to me!”

“No!” Tessa hissed as Ella continued to sob. Erika paled and Exal smirked and laughed, tossing his head back.
“
It’s very true, like it or not! So come out girl, so I might make you a woman, and they will be spared!”

            Erika glared at him from her hiding spot as she tried to conjure a plan. As long as he wore the amulet, her powers were useless. She didn’t have a moment to think on it though, for Ella suddenly went silent. When her body fell, Exal was cleaning her blood from his sword.

“You can still save one, girl!” He shouted. “Offer yourself now, your mother may live!”

“No, Erika!” Tessa cried out, “Stay away, stay hidden! Do not surrender!”

“Shut your mouth, whore!”

            It was the last straw when Exal slapped her mother. Erika stood, still clutching the medallion in a steel grip as she stepped forward.

“Better an honest whore,” She hissed, “Then a warlord who needs cheap tricks to conquer three women.”

“Why you little…”

“Erika, run!”

            Exal stormed forward and knocked Erika back when he stuck her. She cried out, hearing an almost sickening crack as her head hit the base of the statue and the medallion fell beside her, white side up. His men were laughing in the distance, and Erika could hear Tessa screaming. Yet, even as she watched her blood drip down onto the medallion from the stone, she was unafraid. Even as Exal approached, and her sight went dark, she knew it would all work out...





            Exal on the other hand was rather unnerved when he saw the Medallion beside the nearly dead girl spinning. He would have let it be, but then her body began to hover above the ground. His men gasped, beginning to mutter witchcraft, as he watched in shock. The girl’s unusual silver hair was darkening, becoming black, and her pale skin was tanning before his eyes.

            The feminine figure slowly rotated, landing on her feet as the medallion flew up toward her. It was then her red eyes shot open and she caught it, and it seemed to vanish into her hand. The black haired girl turned to Exal with a smirk and for a moment he was unafraid, calm and sure he could wind.

In that moment, she was behind him, had her hands on either side of his head, and snapped his neck. The soldiers in the Temple began to scream and scatter, only causing her to laugh and toss her head back.

“Go ahead and run,” She shouted and pulled the sword from the dead Warlord’s body. “It only makes things more fun!





            As the last soldier fell in a puddle of blood, Tessa finally found her ability to address the dark haired girl.

“E-Erika?” She stammered, staring at the body that had been her daughter’s. She laughed softly in replied before facing Tessa.

“You have nothing to fear of me, Lady Protector of this Temple. I am a servant of your Gods, whom your daughter beseeched in time of need.”

“Is Erika…?”

“No, she is quite alive.” She laughed again. “I was unleashed inside her when her innocent blood was spilt on the Medallion of Janus.”

“Who are you?” Tessa finally asked.

“Me?” The woman paused before answering. “I’m Enigma.”

            Before another word could be said she collapsed n a heap, the sword falling beside her. Tessa scrambled up and caught the girl as the darkness faded from her hair and her skin once again paled. She groaned softly, blue eyes blinking up at her.

“Mother…?”

“Oh, my sweet child…” Tessa hugged her tightly and close. Erika blinked and returned the hug for a long moment before gasping.

“Mother?”

“What is it?” Tessa asked, releasing her, alarmed.

“…What happened to all the soldiers?” Erika exclaimed as she looked around the Temple, now covered in blood.

“You don’t know?” Tessa stammered, staring at her daughter’s hands, still soaked in that same blood.

“The last thing I remember is getting hit. Then it’s all black.”

            Enigma. Tessa thought it over and hugged her daughter tightly once more.

“I suppose it’s a mystery.” She replied as they stood up. “Come on now. We’re the Guardians of this Temple, and we have quite the mess to clean up.”

“Right…” Erika’s blue eyes became distant for a moment as she followed her mother. “An Enigma…”

N.A.O.M.I.

            Naomi was terrified of people, as a rule, so she lived in an apartment with a premed student. The other girl was always busy with her studies so she never really bothered Naomi. So the girl lived out of her room with a computer hooked to the net by an Ethernet connection. On occasion her roommate was probably curious about how she got rent, but it never bothered her enough to ask. The truth was Naomi had a sort of nest egg left to her from her mother, a brilliant woman who’d trusted the wrong man with her heart.

            The truth was Naomi’s life was on the net. She loved running through the zeroes and ones of binary, not really caring how much time went on in the real world. Firewalls were like fences to her, something to be scaled and climbed. It never occurred to hr anything was odd about her simple existence. She could roam landmarks like Stonehenge and the Lincoln Memorial from the net and experience rock concerts through live feed as if she were there.

It never struck Naomi as odd that there was an Ethernet jack behind her ear. The fact that she could feel any sensation through the net as if she were experienced it in reality never gave her pause. That was simply her state of existence as others lived and breathed (something she did, but did not realize she didn’t have to). Other then the tragedy of her mother, Naomi fancied she had an ordinary life.

Until she started finding her name left all over the Net for her to find. It appeared in pop ups, web banners, videos, URLs, RSS feeds, even web comics. It was small enough not to be noticed, unless you viewed the net the way Naomi did. There it was, the combination of her name, all over the net, so deep in it’s programming no one probably even noticed. It didn’t cause issues, more an addition in the programming then part of it, probably slipped in as an update. Yet no matter where she went she found that same identical combination of ones and zeroes. 01001110 01000001 01001111 01001101 01001001: NAOMI.

It was an ordinary evening when that that message proved itself more then coincidence. Naomi was wearing her usual pajamas, a blue button top with short sleeves and yellow pants. Her feet were clad in green fuzzy slippers, and this clothing was her favorite outfit, she washed it when she showered. She had a spare set of course, wearing the same pajamas twenty-four seven was something she didn’t much like the feel of. She had tried once, but the cloth felt grimy against her skin and the smell got on her nerves. When her roommate got home she found Naomi standing in the laundry room wearing naught but her under thing. As she never left the apartment, all Naomi felt she needed in terms of clothing were those two sets of pajamas, two pairs of fuzzy slippers, and under things.

CNN’s news scroll had been hacked by sources unknown. The story was all over the net, so at some point Naomi wound up examining the article, and one the hacked scroll had read. By the time she finished decoding it her microwave dinner was cold to the touch. Translated, the binary read: Naomi. I knew your mother. Meet me at… Then it was the address of a fast food joint. Naomi could hear her heart racing in her chest as she stood up, programming the information into a GPS application on her handheld device. She didn’t know the brand, mostly because it didn’t have one. Naomi had found a bunch of broken gadgets and put together the parts that still worked. It worked on a third party operating system, but it worked just the same.

Naomi exhaled as it found the location and programmed the directions. She glanced in the computer screen for a moment, briefly considering the situation. Whoever had sent the message was desperate to communicate with her. They knew about her somehow, and considering she hadn’t ventured out of the apartment in over two years, that was an odd fact.

Of course it might be a trap, perhaps someone trying to get her mother’s murderer parole by killing the only witness to his crimes. Yet he had a life sentence and it hadn’t even been five years since the crime, so Parole could not be a question yet, could it? Naomi shuddered at the thought of that madman who haunted her dreams walking free.

Still she approached the door, her curiosity greater then her fear. Whoever had contacted her had gone through an awful lot of trouble to do it, and she wanted, no, she needed to know why.



It’s possible Naomi stood out when she arrived at the diner. It was the middle of the night and she wore her pajamas and slippers as always. The messenger was rather obvious though, for there was a series of empty coffee cups in front of him on the counter.  He’d sent the message over the news at five o’clock at it was nearly midnight. He looked like a tired man, his hair salt and pepper, his skin creased, and he wore a jacket with elbow patches. He certainly doesn’t seem like someone who’d befriend a murderer. Of course then she remembered reading somewhere that murderers seemed like normal people until they struck. Naomi shivered at the thought as she sat down beside the man.

He glanced over with tired brown eyes and paused for a long moment.

“You’re not freezing in that? Weather predicts snow.”

“I’m just fine, thanks. Didn’t notice.” Naomi looked to him. “I don’t have anything but a PayPal account and a bank card, so you better be covering my tab. As you invited me out that’s only polite.”

“…You’re Naomi?” The man seemed a bit surprised. “And you eat?”
“Yes, I am, and I do. Usually pop tarts. As we’re at a diner, I fancy French toast.”

“Ah. Right.” The man waved down a waitress and put in the order.

            It was Naomi’s oddest meal because he was staring at her during every bite.
“Did I get syrup on my cheek?” She asked, looking at him.

“It doesn’t gunk up the works?” He inquired.

“…Why would it? I’m not allergic.” Naomi sighed and shook her head, looking up at him. “I think you should tell me how you knew my mother.”

            The mans face darkened for a moment as he looked down.
“Yes, I knew her. She was a brilliant woman. Aya Haruki. Cursed to be infertile.” He murmured. “And obsessed with creating life.”

“I’d rather think your wrong.” Naomi stared at him, “Seeing as I’m sitting here eating French toast, her daughter.”
“You were hers.” He laughed. “One hundred percent all hers. Aya wouldn’t let anyone else touch the project. She barely let me see her notes, except she needed supplies, and if she asked for anymore herself they’d have asked too many questions for her liking.” He paused, staring at her again. “You are magnificent.”

“And you are old enough to be my father and a bit creepy.”

Naomi stood up, a strange feeling in her gut. She was nervous, like if she remained there her life would change forever.
“New Android Operating Memory and Identity.” The man stated as he sipped a fresh mug of coffee. Naomi shivered as she faced him, she had a knack for words, and she knew it before he clarified. “N.A.O.M.I. That was her name for the project. No one believed she could do it. Hell, I had my doubts. Nonetheless, here you are. Living, talking, walking, breathing, eating.”
“Creeped out.” Naomi added, “Goosebumps forming.”
“Goosebumps?”  He paused and laughed. “She was a perfectionist, Aya. Do you dream?”
“Have nightmares every night.” Naomi replied as her eyes narrowed, “And I’m going home. Because I don’t think you knew my mother anymore and this was a sick prank.”
“Naomi!”

He reached out as she turned to leave, grasping the edge of her pajama top. A few buttons broke and she yelped, covering her chest with her arms.

“You dirty old pervert!” She screeched.

“You weren’t born, Naomi, you don’t have a belly button!” He cried out. They were silent for a moment, in the middle of a scene at the diner. Naomi’s bright, too bright, blue eyes looked down to her midriff in almost terror. She’d never noticed her lack of a belly button before. Shock filled her eyes as she faced the man with answers.

“Why?”

“Because,” He finished his coffee before facing her, “You’re an android.”

Modern Day Don Quixote

A warrior against what others couldn’t see

I wonder how many times his might saved me

Oh, of our modern day Don Quixote



When you saw a simple windmill

Into battle he would ride

For he spied a wicked giant

With arms spread open wide

Yet when he fell back down that hill

Society was less compliant



People are so quick to judge

To disregard what “cannot be”

They did hold a grudge

So when he insisted he could see

They merely called him crazy



But what if

It wasn’t he saw things that weren’t there

But things the rest of you couldn’t bear?

Were those dangers truly unreal?

Or was it you who couldn’t feel?



Little me he protected

Since long before my birth

And when society rejected

I could see his worth



Many fled, not ready to understand

A man who chased the stars

Didn’t care that they left scars

And so I, a child, did take his hand



My mother, his friend, left me in his care

And on those days, such adventures we did share!

I was not his Dulcinea, no, but a willing Sancho

Sticks were swords, our armor but a poncho!



Alas I did begin to grow and leave

What others called childish folly behind

But my adoration he would still receive

Our lives were so very intertwined



As a new chapter in my story would soon begin

Not once did I fathom I’d lose such dear kin



We stayed, my mother and I, as long as we could

At his bedside and spoke of whatever we would

And then one day as we said good bye

I knew I’d not see him again before he’d die

Of course, the feelings I did deny



And so passed our beloved Don Quixote

Who defended us from giants we could not see

He did not get to see the flower bloom

Of the seed he’d known from the womb



In his name I will live my life

Not be content as some housewife

I cannot exist as others would

But I will be as only I could



And so I spend my every day

Living life in such a way

Chasing the stars and moon alike

Remembering like riding a bike



Monsters hear me now and tremble

For the man I may resemble

For the title that suited him

I will take it on a whim



Now I will charge the giants atop the hill

And chase the sky until I’ve had my fill

For as before it was he

I shall take the mantle

Of Don Quixote.