You can tell a lot about a guy by who he'd pair off with Link.
Anyway. In the last year I had around two attempts at finding potential geek dates. Boys, who were geeks, who while I will remain friendly with, are incompatible at anything more.
While's there's a variety of reasons for one, he was guilty of the one thing that the other boy tried as well.
They didn't want a Geek Girl. They wanted female versions of themselves. The following are two items I shall add to a list, explain, and then explain things I believe must be considered for geeks dating geeks.
- Gaming System Preference
- Stance of Pirating Video Games
Guy One decided that I needed to have a hacked PSP to really appreciate pirated games. Here's the thing. Will I don't damn those who pirate video games, I don't like to myself. A combination of paranoia about the FBI and honestly not wanting to screw up a perfectly good PSP with plenty of games I do enjoy.
I did briefly consider a Dingo, and admitted this to him. This is a handheld gadget that can be played. He informed me it was trite and the PSP was a much better choice.
And I explained for what might have been the third time I had no interest in hacking my PSP.
By the end of the conversation I was on the point of "yelling" (it was over an instant messenger) at him. Because, you see, I'd told him point blank that I don't hack my systems no less then six times, and he'd kept pushing the matter like he'd change my mind He then pulled the special needs card.
Missing the point that I came out of a special education school, and my best friend has the same condition, to a much further extreme then he does. And yet she always knows when to drop a topic (usually after the first time I say no). If she brings it up again, she at least waits for another conversation. And while I adore my best friend, she does lack some social graces, though I adore her none the less.
So by the time we finally met in person I was kind of sour and making it clear this was a casual date. I am not one of those girls who runs around like a chicken without a head claiming "I can change him!" I would not try to change any guy I dated. I expect the same courtesy.
Now guy two had some of the same issues: missing the point that we need to focus on shared interests, not the things I've already expressed I have no interest in. I will do you the same favor.
So when I say I still hold a grudge against Bill Gates because my first laptop was shite because it had Windows Vista on it, and now refuse to ever buy a Xbox 360. It lost my personal console war to Nathan Drake-I have a PS3. ((I only got an Xbox when it was sixty dollars and I got a friend to chip in half-remember Dick? He was desperate for me to play Halo))
I don't care if that means I can't hop on Xbox Live. I'm not telling them my Xbox friends to hop on PSN! These were not the things I consider, and if I have money to save it's not going to a 360.
Something I explained several times over.
Also, when I say I had a bad experience with Yu-Gi-Oh cards and no longer follow along the rules, this does not mean I want you to explain them to me. This means as you are sitting there explaining things I didn't ask you to, I am ignoring you and thinking about that Hunger Games role play I opted out of to come meet you.
As I write this I realize this isn't a geek boy issue. This is a boy issue. Refusing to listen. Wanting to change.
So allow me to clarify something. This goes for geeks dating geeks, boys dating girls, girls dating boys, and though I have no experience, I believe might apply to boys dating boys and girls dating boys.
Don't make whoever you're talking to repeat themselves again. Saying something once over in a conversation is fine. By the third time its irksome. The fourth time is suicide.
Recommendations for video games are fine. Same applies for books and movies. Trying to change someones mind about something they already have an opinion about? Unwise on all counts. ((Note: "Because I like it" is not a proper recommendation)).
So oddly enough, my wisdom for the dating scene comes from one of the most hated video game characters running: Navi the Fairy.
- Hey! - Greet the person.
- Look! - Observe!
- Listen! - Listen to the person talking. Because just like when you didn't pay attention to that darned fairy, if you don't listen to the other person talking, you may just crash and burn.
